I figured out the key to good parenting. I can’t believe it’s taken me this long. I need to parent when the times are hardest. Meaning, instead of putting my children off because I’m feeling angry, stressed, irritable, or impatient – I need to grow up and be the parent.
I thought of this tonight when I came home from work/running errands and was completely and utterly exhausted. Is there a better word to portray tiredness besides exhausted? If there is, that was me tonight. And usually when I am feeling like that, I tend to do my own thing and let Will play on his own so that I’m less likely to be irritated with him wanting to just talk and be a kid (parents, you know exactly what I mean)! Tonight I challenged myself to do something different – I decided to put ALL of my “issues” aside, and focus solely on him. It took quite a bit of self-discipline, but I pushed through it. After the kids went to bed, I felt so much better knowing I had given my all and had no regrets. It was such a relief to me! Besides, is it really fair for me to burden my kids with my emotions?
So this is my goal from now on – to put myself aside in order to be the parent I want to be when it gets the hardest.